More Of the Candid Modest Reckoning of sorts.....

This is a sort of an extension to the previous blog,
but indeed more specific to the inherent turmoil !
Here is a link to the previous blog!

My very observant nature has actually led to write all this,
in the very sense of the term!

Let me tell you all, that
i also found a couple of close friends,
with whom i normally vent out,
who could very closely relate to the subject!

I sincerely hope you can relate to this one, too.

Do not misconstrue it as a lame reasoning for a failure in love..
there's much more to it..

Life is easier to take than you think;
all that is necessary is..
to accept the impossible,
do without the indispensable and
bear the intolerable.

Remember,
new lovers are born everyday!

The real thinking of woman is pre-eminently practical and applied.
It is something we describe as sound common sense,
and is usually directed to what is close at hand and personal.
In general,
it can be said that feminine mentality manifests
an undeveloped,childlike,or primitive character;
instead of the thirst for knowledge,curiosity;
instead of judgment,prejudice;
instead of thinking,imagination or dreaming;
instead of will, wishing.

Where a man takes up objective problems,
a woman contents herself with solving riddles;
where he battles for knowledge and understanding,
she contents herself with faith or superstition,
or else she makes assumptions.
AND hence you as a man is also one of her assumptions!

When you buy women a pair of shoes,
they use them to walk away from you!

I have heard not a few men say that they have given up on love.
They have no luck in love and that the only women they seem to encounter are insensitive,
lying,cheating lewd(s).
And to worsen things,
the chances of them meeting another insensitive, lying, cheating lewd is 99%.

Do you share these thoughts?

Have you ever wondered why other men
(whom you think are not as attractive,smart and interesting as you)
are blessed with wonderful relationships and you have been denied?

What's terrible is to pretend that the second-rate is first-rate.
To pretend that you don't need love when you do;
or you like your work when you know quite well you're capable of better.

When will that hand meet my own, with a grasp that causes some sensation??

Where do i get...
a clean, pure, straight, honest, upright, generous, intelligent, magnanimous companion??
I know, that is definitely not too much to ask for...

Do you have this fear that your next relationship
will turn out to be as bad as the last
and it will just be a cycle of one bad love after another.

Do you, really?

Have you ever been in love?
Horrible, isn't it?
It makes you so vulnerable.
It opens your chest and it opens your heart and
it means someone can get inside you and mess you up.
You build up all these defenses.
You build up this whole armour,
for years,
so nothing can hurt you,
then one stupid person,
no different from any other stupid person,
wanders into your stupid life...
You give them a piece of you.
They don't ask for it.
They do something dumb one day like
they'd kiss you, or smile at you,
and then your life isn't your own anymore.

It gets inside you.
It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness,
so a simple phrase like....
'maybe we should just be friends' or
'how very perceptive' turns into a splinter working its way into your heart.
It hurts.
Not just in the imagination.
Not just in the mind.
It's a soul-hurt, a body-hurt,
a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain.

I hate love

Pleasure of love lasts but a moment,
Pain of love lasts a lifetime.
The ones that you love the most are usually the ones that hurt you the most.

Ohh..hh......
He, who is not impatient, is not in love.
Could the gals relate to this??
( they are the one's who always tel us to be patient!)

HOW DO I DEFINE IT????
Love is an exploding cigar we willingly smoke!
Love is a temporary madness.
It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides.

You come to love not by finding the perfect person,
but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly!

If you judge people, you have no time to love them.
But how can you love 'somebody' ???
Anybody who appeals to your heart is being sorta judged in a way !

Is a life worth living,
without no one to love and to be loved in return?

when some one says they love u,
it just means....
they love u for that day,
the next day,
they could be running away with your best friend!

I love making friends.... it's people I can't really stand!
( Rules are prone to exceptions! )

Love one another and you will be happy.
Nothing is as simple and as difficult as that!

If you have some thing interesting to comment upon and add on .. do it..
but do not sympathize....

( Critical appreciation is the modest way of saying that
i took a Lotta pains to read all of that!)

---NVS

'Into Modest Reckoning of Sorts'

Have you ever resolved to start a new life only to find the same situation following you??

Same impossible boss.
Same scheming co-workers.
Same unhappy relationship.
Same uncaring, insensitive Girlfriend.
Can the same people be following you?

There's an old story of a gatekeeper of a town,
who was approached by a traveler
looking for a new place to settle in.
The traveler said to the gatekeeper,
“I am thinking of moving to your town”.

The gatekeeper replied, “How was your old town?”
The traveler said, “Oh, it's disgusting.
The people are rude and unfriendly”.

The gatekeeper said, “ It is amazing but those are the exact words,
I would use to describe the people here.
It would be better to look for another place”.
So the traveler went on.

A second traveler approached the gatekeeper.
He also wanted to move to a new town.

The gatekeeper asked, “How was your old town?”
“Oh, the people are great.
They are kind, generous and friendly”,
replied the traveler.

The gatekeeper said, “That is amazing.
Those are the same words I would use to describe the people here.
Please come in and stay with us for a while”.

The gatekeeper knew, “ Wherever you go, you take yourself with you”

If certain scenarios keep showing up in your life
it may be time to examine yourself.
Remember,
in all of these scenarios,
there is one common ingredient: 'You' !

So you aren't stuck in these scenarios,
you are stuck with your own self!

If you think your life is not the kind of life you deserve,
if you think the relationship that you have is not the kind that you want to have,
if you think that the woman you are with now,
is not the person you should be with,

it may be the time to examine yourself !

Examine closely the role that you play in your life
and your relationships that cause these scenes to be repeatedly played out.

The ancient Greeks advocated,
“Know thyself”.
Truly, this adage is as useful now as it was in those times.

Can you imagine how truly different your life would be
if you take time out,
as often as you can, to examine yourself.

At the end of the day, ask yourself some simple questions.

How did I spend my time today?
Was I a positive person today?
Did I bring cheer to the people I encountered today?
Did I treat the people around me fairly?
Did I show love to my woman today?

The answers that you give, will give you,
a deeper awareness of yourself and of others.

Most of us spend a lot of time examining other people’s lives and situations,
but rarely pause to ponder over our own.

If we find ourselves in a bad relationship,
we rarely stop and say, “What role have I played to make this happen?”
Instead,
we spend a great deal of our time,
and our friends’ time figuring the other person’s role.

A long time ago,
I read an article that said the world is your mirror;
your life is a reflection of yourself.
If you want the mirror to reflect the kind of life and love that you feel you deserve,
you have to work on yourself.

And as you do that,
it is important to remember that wherever you go,
you take yourself with you.
Whichever relationship you get yourself into,
you take yourself with you!

( Critical Appreciation imparts greater value to one's thoughts openly penned down! )

--- NVS

Listen to the Radio.......

I guess as a lover, I have a ways to go
when someone wants you,
they should just say it's so
But you'll understand
if you'll take my hand
then we can dance real slow.
To something on the radio.
Listen to the radio... listen to the radio.
Let's spend the night together
baby don't go
they sing it on the radio.
The words I'd say,
don't seem to sound as real;
the songs they play,
that's how I really feel.
Listen to the radio
listen to the radio.
Let's spend the night together
baby don't go
they sing it on the radio.
I try to find a way to explain to you
What's on my mind
and not sound so plain to you
But you'll realize if
you'll close your eyes
the feelings my words can't slow.
They're playing on the radio.
Listen to the radio ...

I really can't resist to mention that
it is a very melodious, Don Williams song!

Anyways,
music is something, i can talk hrs...onn..
That'll be given a space, too ..
but right now its radio on my mind..

The radio has been so close to my heart for a while now!
I thought there couldn't be a better way to say it out..

The context perhaps,
makes it look like 'radio plays a very important role here at least..'
( INDEED it does serve the purpose, for the eternal lover boy )

The revolutionary radio invention was epoch making,
though, to mention it necessarily,
however, more so to mention is,
its revival in the current scenario in the form of FM stations..

Its been a while now that
quite a few of us start and end our days,
with listening to the radio..

You get to hear all kinds of music genre, bla bla bla....
That is something we all know about,
but it has more to it .. really..

You get the human interaction...
Not in the form of chirpy shit-talking weird ' Rjs ',
but the few ones,
who really make a point not to deviate, too much..

They interact,
they get to know people,
their thought process,
human inclinations,
public awareness,
various attitudes towards a lot of subjects and much more..

The list just doesn't seem to end!

The biggest advantage being accessibility,
and to inevitably follow are---
affordability,
simplicity,
selectivity,
flexibility,
and what not..???

I simply love radio for all this and much more ..

I can't really end this right now ..

but,
there's this,
great song on the radio
that i can't really miss out on..

so folks,
keep listening to the radio!

--- NVS

Who's advice have you bought today....???

Trust me, without a being a preacher,
I will dispense this advice now!

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth, oh never mind,
you will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they've faded.
But trust me,
in 20 years you’ll look back at photos of yourself
and recall in a way you can’t grasp now,
how much possibility lay before you and
how fabulous you really looked,
you are not as fat as you imagine.

Don’t worry about the future, or worry,
but know that worrying is as effective as
trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum.
The real troubles in your life are apt to be things
that never crossed your worried mind,
the kind that blindside you at 4pm on some idle Tuesday.


Do one thing everyday that scares you

Sing

Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts,
don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours.

Floss

Don’t waste your time on jealousy,
sometimes you’re ahead,
sometimes you’re behind,
the race is long, and in the end, it’s only with yourself.


Remember the compliments you receive,
forget the insults,
if you succeed in doing this,
tell me how.



Keep your old love letters,
throw away your old bank statements.

Stretch

Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know
what you want to do with your life,
the most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22
what they wanted to do with their lives,
some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don’t.

Get plenty of calcium.

Be kind to your knees,
you’ll miss them when they’re gone.

Maybe you’ll marry,
maybe you won’t,
maybe you’ll have children,
maybe you won’t,

Maybe you’ll divorce at 40,
Maybe you’ll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary
What ever you do,
don’t congratulate yourself too much or berate yourself either
Your choices are half chance,
so are everybody else’s.



Enjoy your body,
use it every way you can,
don’t be afraid of it,
or what other people think of it,
it’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever own

Dance,
even if you have nowhere to do it
but in your own living room.

Read the directions,
even if you don’t follow them.

Do not read beauty magazines,
they will only make you feel ugly.

Get to know your parents,
you never know when they’ll be gone for good.

Be nice to your siblings,
they are the best link to your past
and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.

Understand that friends come and go,
but for the precious few you should hold on.


Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle
because the older you get,
the more you need the people you knew
when you were young.

Live in New York City once,
but leave before it makes you hard,
Live in Northern California once,
but leave before it makes you soft.

Travel.

Accept certain inalienable truths,
prices will rise,
politicians will philander,
you too will get old,
and when you do you’ll fantasize that
when you were young
prices were reasonable,
politicians were noble and
children respected their elders.



Respect your elders.

Don’t expect anyone else to support you.
Maybe you have a trust fund,
Maybe you have a wealthy spouse;
but you never know when either one might run out.

Don’t mess too much with your hair,
or by the time you're 40,
it will look 85.

Be careful whose advice you buy,
but,
be patient with those who supply it.

Advice is a form of nostalgia,
dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal,
wiping it off,
painting over the ugly parts and
recycling it for more than it’s worth.

But trust me,
You 'll love this advice!


---NVS